Reality or Ideal: To Be or Not To Be...

For 3weeks now, I have not written anything on relationships, not because I don't have anything to write about, but because there has been this impression that my views about relationships and sustaining relationships [I share that a lot on tv and radio] are too idealist and have no place in today's world (aka The Real World)

People don't disagree with the views; they disagree with the applicability and practicability of those views: Is forgiveness possible? How can you be with someone you are not happy with merely because you guys are married? "How do you mean make the sacrifice to make it work?! Life is too short. If it's not working, it's not working"; So because I understand the implication of being in a relationship with that person, I shouldn't complain? I should die inside something that doesn’t make me happy…

For me, there is no bigger reality, than the reality that honours and values the gifts we have inspite of the flaws inherent in those gifts. We all have flaws and we all make that sacrifice necessary to keep our relationships alive and beautiful.

A relationship is a gift. It is a miracle and we cannot continue to create blueprints when the giver of the miracle that made you happy has already provided the blueprint for the journey you have embarked upon. So sometimes, the reality we speak of are effectively, issues we are unwilling to compromise about; our ego, our anger, our pride, our comfort and the other things which make it difficult for us to make the amount of sacrifice necessary to sustain our relationships. The issue then is this, Reality or Ideal: To be or not to be

Blessings and more, to you and yours

SHALOM