Something More Important Than Forgiveness...

I speak of forgiveness from the angle of the one who caused the offense.

Forgiveness is really important... It is about the strongest pillar for every relationship. But there is something stronger and more important than forgiveness. Yes there is! And it is called support.

Forgiveness is not sought after merely because one says or said "I am sorry" to another. Forgiveness is a process... It involves healing, mending, rebuilding and restoration.

Forgiveness is not as important as support. People don't ask for forgiveness because you want them to, they ask for forgiveness when they are ready for it. Ready for it in this sense, because they first need to realise and recognise the fact that they have erred, then they must deal with the guilt of their mistakes or else, the trauma of that event will weigh your relationship down. So until they are ready to ask for forgiveness, they need your love, your care, your patience, your understanding and your support, to keep them going.

Support helps you realise and remember that there is still love at home, and that the love, which you can easily fall back on is always within your reach.

Never take support away from the one you love. Never let the pain caused by love to define your relationship (and your behaviour towards love). Believe that your role and your part can sustain your relationship until the one you love comes to his/her senses.

Don't switch off or disconnect from love in anger or bitterness. And if you can support the one you love even in the midst of the pain of offense, then you are truly one who loves as he/she is meant to.

Blessings and more, to you and yours.

SHALOM

Soul-Search Time...

Greetings friends,

I read this piece from the page of a friend on facebook, and I thought I could share it here. I trust it will help us start the weekend on a good note:

Never waste anyone’s time if you aren’t going to love them forever. Don’t even date them merely because you think that having a huge list of ex-boyfriends and girlfriends… It doesn’t even portray the man or woman in you.

Always speak your heart to people. Don’t keep that person around because you feel pity for him or her. If you’re busy loving someone else, talk about it rather than keeping that “dude or babe” around you as a secret close friend or a substitute. Fine, it will hurt them but it helps a lot. Stop fooling that innocent person who spares his/her time for you; who sacrifices anything little he/she has for you; who ignores all other chances of beautiful ladies and handsome men because he/she has hope in you. Think about it my friends and act accordingly.

May the strength of your relationship be based on the truth in your heart. The truth you know, that the person you love is worth your love...

Blessings and more, to you and yours

SHALOM

Still Loving Even Over And Above Pain...

You can love someone so much and still not respect him/her... And you cannot tolerate someone you cannot respect. The way you respond to the views and ideas of the one you profess to love, must first show your respect before it proves your tolerance.

In the maturity to tolerate/condone the excesses of love, is the grace to live with love inspite of it's excesses. 

Most importantly, your relationship will always face challenges... Always. And when they come, remember all the good times and may they help you through the bad times... May the memories of a beautiful past, help you make it through the sad present, and help you believe in a more glorious future. Love is a beautiful thing. 

Blessings and more, to you and yours

SHALOM 

Love's Building Blocks...

Warmest African greetings to every one who believes that the battles we fight in order to keep love alive are worth it. As we approach the weekend, I pray that we are able to spend time with the people we love; those people whose lives and joy matter to us, who give us a reason to hang in there, who keep us going and keep us conscious of the things that matter most in life...

Three important issues come to my mind to share with you today and I trust that they will be as profound to you as they were to me:

Do not let the transitions of your life make you feel you are no longer in love. Things will definitely change once a few things which were not there when your relationship started come into the picture: a new job, a bigger house, a smaller house, pregnancy, salary cut, job loss, kids, even new pets can cause a transition. So you must learn to restructure and adapt your relationship as the changes which will characterize your relationship begin to come.

To love and be loved is a choice... It (like every other choice we make) will have consequences. And you hold on to love, not so that people don't tell you "we told you so"; You hold on 'cause you made a choice worth believing in...

A truthful commitment to love will increase your maturity and spirituality. It will help you discover yourself and know God better

Have a great love life.

Blessings and more, to you and yours.

SHALOM