Jealousy: a state where you have the emotional need to be assured that your place in the life and heart of the one you love (the same one who loves you) is intact, and will not be taken by another (whether person or thing).
Envy: a state where you wish for a situation you know you will never have, and a situation which you will not feel fulfilled about even if you had it the way you wanted. You wish no one else calls or sends SMS to your spouse; you wish your spouse was not on facebook; you wish your spouse doesn't get calls from or talk to colleagues and clients of the opposite sex; you wish your spouse didn't have contacts of the opposite sex in his/her phone. It's a dangerous thing and gives rise to something much worse.
Obsession: a state where jealousy has advanced through envy and has become a situation where you will do anything and play any trick to see to it, that you have your spouse's attention all to yourself... You achieve this by controlling the life, moments and activities of your spouse through harassment, intimidation and manipulation. You lose your appetite, your taste-buds stop working properly, you are always in an unnecessary rage when the obsession bug bites... You put your spouse in a bad state; you make them almost mindless and choke the very essence of their being.
Possessiveness: a state where you want to be part of your spouses every activity out of insecurity. On the face of it, it looks like a desire desire to pursue accountability, so that you can be a part of your spouse’s life and preserve the integrity of your relationship, only this time, you want it to be done on your own terms and at own pace.
Manage jealousy by being understanding, appreciative, accountable and trustworthy. Never allow it transcend into envy. Guard your heart against obsession. It kills you and yours. Love and be loved. Be well...
Blessings and more, to you and yours.
SHALOM
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