If It's Not Unconditional, Then It's Not Love...

Why is it that anytime we think about unconditional love, we say "only God can do that"? Love is a waste of time, resources, investments and emotions if it is not unconditional. Love must be unconditional for it to make any kind of sense.

Unconditional love means you remain caring and committed to your choice and decision to stay true to someone you love, inspite of and irrespective of the flaws and challenges (perceived or present) that you encounter or anticipate; and the resolve to make the appropriate measure of sacrifice necessary to keep and sustain the relationship, no matter how tough the times get.

Unconditional love requires that you be the fool when your spouse thinks he/she is smart; to be meek when they become heady and stubborn; to love when there is no reason in the horizon; to hold on, not because the person or relationship is worth holding on to at that material time, but because looking back into the past (and how beautiful things used to be), you perceive and are willing to believe that things will get better; to hope even against hope and trust that change will come, and beauty will be restored even when pain and strife is all you see.

This is love... This is unconditional love. It is not hinged on reciprocity, but founded on the fact that one is willing to give his/her heart imagining the possibility that it will be scarred or even broken, but trusting that it will not be...

Love is only worth it, when it is unconditional. So if you don't think that person is worth it, why do you waste your time, only to turn around and talk them down and treat them like you are perfect? If you can't love unconditionally, you will only hurt yourself and others. We must all build our capacity and grow in this direction.

Blessings and more, to you and yours.

SHALOM