RELATIONSHIP 101: Are You Ready To Be In a Relationship?

Greetings and a very happy new year to everyone who believes in love. 2013 has started very well and will add a lot of value to everyone's life both in lessons and achievements. There will be challenges, a reminder that we live in an imperfect world... But we shall thrive in this imperfect world. Continuing on Relationship 101

 

You must not be in a relationship if you cannot handle it. It is not a trial and error situation. We seem to have found the right phrases to justify our irresponsibility these days: “I will keep trying till I find the right person” And sometimes the cost of this is a lot of earthquakes, floods, hurricane, and explosions generally; or “we just want to try and see if it will work out." And sometimes I wonder why it takes a lot of cheating, and a lot of general mess to find out that YOU ARE IN FACT NOT MADE FOR EACH OTHER

Think about it.

You are not ready for a relationship, merely because you are old enough to be in one.

Age is just a numeric appellation, used to distinguish those who were born in a particular year or period, from those who were not.

So when are you ready for a relationship? Or rather, when are you not ready?

- If you are in a relationship merely because all your friends are, then you are not ready.

- If you are in a relationship because everyone expects you to be in one, then you are not ready.

- If you feel you know it all and you do not need a guide, you are not ready.

- If you are mama’s boy or daddy’s girl, and relationship to you is simply how your family sees it, you are not ready.

- If it all depends on your folks and their choice, you are not ready.

- If you have a lust-problem, and you lack self-control; and you feel there is nothing wrong with it, you are not ready.

- If you do not see the other person as being worth all the trouble and sacrifice, you are not ready.

- If you cannot just stop thinking about yourself only, you are not ready.

- If you have a complex problem, and you think that is the way things should be, you are not ready-“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”-Booker .T. Washington.

- If you believe that it is safer to lie to your spouse, in order not to lose him/her, you are not ready. “What you compromise to get, you might ultimately loose”.

- If you cannot get over past mistakes and traumas, if you are just looking for a cushion to rest on after a broken heart, you are not ready.

To be continued...