Love Will Talk About It...

If you are in a relationship with someone who has had a previous relationship, the greatest dis-service you will be doing to your heart and relationship is to believe the lie (whether it was told you or you love that person so much that you chose to believe it) that it was the fault of the person they were in that previous relationship with... A lie that might ultimately destroy the very thing you thought would be yours forever.

Never hesitate to ask this all important question "what's the reason for the breakup of your previous relationship?"... Help your relationship by helping your spouse deal with the contribution(s) they made to that breakup, or that contribution(s) might also contribute to their breakup with you as well.

And please... No matter what you do, do not take "I'd rather not talk about it" for an answer. That statement doesn't show mere unwillingness; but is proof that they haven't gotten over the guilt or hurt from the previous relationship and so are still bitter against themselves or other people (a sign that you too are in trouble) or evidence that you are dealing with a manipulative deceiver.

Don't ever put yourself in a position where you think about your relationship as something that is merely for the now. Everything you invest now, whether in terms of your actions or your in-actions, will factor into the quality of relationship you will end up having.

Blessings and more.

SHALOM