Someone You Know Needs To Hear This...

A SEPARATION IS NOT A BREAKUP...

There is a very clear difference between a separation and a break up. A lot of people are separated and believe they have broken up merely because they don't see or speak with each other anymore.

A break up must be spoken about and defined. It doesn't happen merely because you walked out in anger or moved out of the apartment. Don't encumber yourself with another relationship when you have not cleared up the mess of the one you are in presently. Say it! And make sure you are heard; whether or not he(she) accepts is another issue all together, but when you say it, it will be easier for them to heal and move on. Mean it before you declare it! That way you will be setting each other free...

And if you are confused, it is not the best time to decide to break up. Take sometime to think about it and make sure a break up is the right response to the situation. A separation might help in this instance. But if it is a mere misunderstanding, deal with it and learn from it... Don't break up because you had a misunderstanding.

Get help if you can't figure it out yourself. See a counselor. Make sure a breakup is what you really need before you ask for it.

Blessings and more.

SHALOM